"Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." --Vicki Harrison

Loss is a universal experience, and yet, losing a loved one can feel isolating and unbearable. It is one of the most profoundly difficult things you can experience in your lifetime. If you've recently lost someone you may wake up each day wondering how the world can possibly keep on spinning without your loved one in it.

Life is full of other kinds of losses, too. Anyone who's ever lost a pet knows how painful it can be. And major life changes, including (but not limited to) a serious diagnosis, caregiving for a loved one, living with chronic illness, going through a divorce, becoming an 'empty nester,' going through a break-up, or even the transition to parenthood, can evoke feelings of grief.

Grief can make you feel as though you're going “crazy” especially when you feel societal pressure to "move on," or it feels like no one in your life can "handle" your great sadness.

In grief, you may feel consumed by guilt, regret, fear, and sorrow. You may wonder how you'll ever navigate life without your loved one. It may feel as though you'll never be okay again. You might be in the clutches of anxiety right now, just “waiting for the other shoe to drop.” You might feel like you you no longer deserve happiness.

 

Grief knows no timetable and loss changes how you relate to yourself and the world. Counseling can't take your pain away, of course, but it can help to soften your suffering by helping you adapt to your loss and normalizing your experience. Through therapy, you can challenge negative thinking patterns, gain a deeper understanding and appreciation of yourself, develop new coping skills and healthier, more balanced perspectives, and with time find a sense of meaning, hope, peace, and purpose again.

 

Emily's passion is helping people rewrite their own stories. She offers a comforting space in which to process your loss and take steps toward healing. She works collaboratively with clients, using a gentle, informed, and genuine approach. Clients say that they appreciate Emily’s warmth, insight, and humor.

“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.” –Kahlil Gibran

© 2018 by Emily Page Lockamy.